We oneirophiles as dream appreciators may think that it is troublesome to find the uniting, common core in us in the daily life without the help of dreams and the experiential dream group process. We touch the immediacy of life in dream groups, but we are more or less unable to carry it out to others outside of dream groups. The inspiring vision of dreams gets easily lost somewhere, when we leave the group.
However, in a way, we have never left the most important dream group of all: the humanity. The more we recognize that this global group, including you and me, is always dreaming, the more we are able to apply the insights attained in the experiential dream groups to this global dream group; to daily encounters with our fellow men.
We have learned in experiential dream groups how the present moment contains all the wisdom if we only are able to listen to it. When this process grows in us stronger, we see the continuum leading from dream groups to the mystery of life, to the common denominator of all religions. The more we give control to the ever-present unknown in us, the more we are beginning to see everywhere into the same core essence of human beings which we could see earlier only during dream group sessions. We are beginning to see this global dream group, to recognize how the waking state of mankind is more a dream than reality.
These our actors / As I foretold you, were all spirits, and / Are melted into air, into thin air; / And, like the baseless fabric of this vision, / The cloud-capp'd towers, the gorgeous palaces, / The solemn temples, the great globe itself /Yea, all which it inherit, shall dissolve, / And, like this insubstantial pageant faded, / Leave not a rack behind. We are such stuff / As dreams are made on; / And our little life / Is rounded with a sleep."
These Shakespeare's lines point to the deepest inner states beyond all forms, like a mirror of life, which reflects the images of our life in time and space. Religions and philosophies have through the millennia tried to reach these inner states but failed to reach it, mixing up the outer form and inner formless states with each other, creating orthodox, monopolistic claims about exclusive rights over them. If you think you see the mirror, it must be a stain of your own projected image of God or whatever, not the mirror itself.
Many of us have an intuitive feeling about the dreamlike non-objectivity of the world. Let us approach this question via another route, deriving it by reasoning: while dreaming we do not know that we are dreaming. In spite of this fact, we can see every morning, that we once again have been incapable to note the difference between our waking and sleeping states, and - what is most embarrassing - we are not able to convey this knowledge into our following night dreams. Because we have exactly the same feeling of reality when being awake, we cannot exclude the possibility that we are dreaming even after awakening. In fact, many of us have dreamed about the awakening from a dream until we 'really' have awakened.
The argument against the above reasoning seems easy: some of us have suddenly noticed during their dream that they are dreaming. However, unfortunately, this does not prove anything. Analogously with these so-called lucid dreams, there are some of us who know that we are dreaming even when awake. Among most famous of them are many prophets and religious leaders.
Which of these states is the 'real' one? We cannot be sure if our real world is a dream where we think we are awake. How could we be sure that just this last awakening is the real awakening? We cannot know. We cannot know how many awakenings are possible. Is our consciousness consisting of stages of realities like Russian wooden, nested doll toys, perhaps ad infinitum? Or like Kuang Tze dreaming one night being a butterfly, then waking up not knowing if he was Kuang Tze having dreamed being a butterfly, or was he a butterfly dreaming he is Kuang Tze.
Isn't the lucid dream state more real than both the ordinary sleeping state and the waking state because we know that we are dreaming, which means that we are aware of our sleeping state? On the other hand, most of us can not experience that we are not really awake in our 'waking state'. In other words, we make the misjudgment of taking reality for granted, exactly as we do in our ordinary, non-lucid dreams. This means that as long as we take our waking reality as granted, in other words suppose that our waking life perceptions about the world represent reality, we continue to dream our 'reality dreams'. This means that we are still in the first line of this little poem about the awakening process:
First I did not know that I do
Then I did know that I do not know
Now I do not know if I know that I do not know
The more we gain insight about this elusive state we call 'being awake', the more we are able to apply the lessons gained in dreams groups, the lessons about listening very, very carefully, without resisting anything, without the need to convince anybody. These lessons are the same we find in many religions: the only thing needed is to listen to every movement of life all around and inside us.
We have seen the opening up of dreams by listening to the dreamer very carefully and helped him non-violently to find his way into himself. Now we are ready to apply the dream group lessons to our everyday life in a very simple way. When you meet your fellow man outside of dream group then imagine being in the dream group again. As a matter of fact you really are, this time in the global group of spiritually sleeping people. Whatever he is telling you is a dream, his waking dream of life. Listen to him extremely carefully, asking open-ended non-intrusive questions, and you will see his true self unfolding. Through his joy of being really heard, he makes to you what you have done to him: "Give, and it shall be given to you .... For the measure you give will be the measure you get back."